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The Scandal of Grace {The Conclusion: Nothing Too Dirty}

So it’s been six years since my affair and since Anthony and I began our journey to heal our marriage and to create a brand new love. It has been (and is still) the hardest yet most beautiful and worth it journey of our lives and I really wanted to do something to symbolize the… Continue reading The Scandal of Grace {The Conclusion: Nothing Too Dirty}

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The One Thing That Is Killing Marriage

Selfishness.  Why yes, it can actually be summed up in just one word. I must warn you that this is a post for those who actually desire a GREAT marriage…not just a roommate/business partnership “let’s pay the bills together and get the kids grown” type situation. Maybe you were hoping to hear me hash out… Continue reading The One Thing That Is Killing Marriage

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The Scandal of Grace {Anatomy of an Affair: Part 1}

You can catch up on our marriage story here. We were the couple with the marriage others envied. By our late twenties we were earning enough to live comfortably, we had the little white house in the suburbs, new cars we loved, two beautiful kids, and were even heavily involved in ministry at our church.… Continue reading The Scandal of Grace {Anatomy of an Affair: Part 1}

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The Scandal of Grace {His Side of the Story: How We Healed}

{You can catch up on Anthony’s first post “Leave Or Love” here} …..But how? How could we go on, much less heal from here? It would start with just one offering of kindness and selfless grace that I didn’t always feel like giving, at a time. Because when my heart was crushed, if I was going… Continue reading The Scandal of Grace {His Side of the Story: How We Healed}

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The Scandal of Grace {Leave or Love}

You can catch up on our story from the beginning here. I didn’t know it yet, but this was the day my wife would tell me she had been having an affair with another man. As I was leaving work that afternoon a co-worker asked me why I was smiling and what I had to… Continue reading The Scandal of Grace {Leave or Love}

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The Scandal of Grace {Can I Come Home?}

In the months after the affair what I struggled with most was not feeling like I had a right to be home, under his roof, in his bed. Who was I and why did I deserve grace? Guilt. Shame. Condemnation. Self-pity. Self-righteous pride. “How could I have done that? How could I have allowed this… Continue reading The Scandal of Grace {Can I Come Home?}

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The Scandal Of Grace {Encountering Grace}

That first night alone in our hotel room was heartbreaking and painful in every way. There was nothing warm and fuzzy about this little spur of the moment getaway together. It was the dead of winter and everything felt cold. It was all so much deeper than just the affair alone, we both knew it.… Continue reading The Scandal Of Grace {Encountering Grace}